In Loving Memory of Becky
For those who love Becky Donald Tipton Parker to connect.
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
Rebecca "Becky" Donald Tipton Parker
Visitation will be Friday at Southern Funeral Home in Lexington, Miss. from 6 to 8 p.m., and from 10 a.m. until the time of service at the church on Saturday.
She was born Rebecca “Becky” Helm Donald on December 8, 1954 to Charles Unger Donald and Virginia Helm Donald of Goodman, Miss. Becky graduated valedictorian of Central Holmes Academy in 1972. She graduated with honors from Mississippi State University and received an outstanding accounting award as a senior.
She then married and lived briefly in Corinth, Miss. and Chicago, Ill. before settling in Columbus, Miss. where she worked as a CPA. Becky served as a member of Columbus First United Methodist Church for nearly 20 years, participating in Circle 6, the Chancel choir, and the Handbell Choir.
In 2007, Becky was preliminarily diagnosed with Multiple System Atrophy, an extremely rare brain disorder similar to Parkinson’s disease, which ultimately claimed her life. Following her diagnosis, she spent time in the care of two nursing facilities, The Arrington in Columbus and Lexington Manor in Lexington
Becky was most proud of her two children, Eric Cramer Tipton and Lauren Virginia Tipton Wrather. Friends, family, and caregivers were touched by her kind spirit, warm sense of humor, and loving heart.
Preceded in death by younger brother, Tim Donald, and nephew, Nick Henley, Becky is survived by her parents Charles and Virginia Donald, her son Eric and wife Bethany, her daughter Lauren and husband Kyle, her older brother David Donald and wife Nora, younger brother Danny Donald and wife Joy, and her sister Kelly Patterson and husband Mike.
Honorary pallbearers include Lynn Arnold, Roseanne Weeks, and her prayer pals, Patti Johnson, Diane Lawrence, Judy Waller, Ronda Andrus, Jane Crigler, and Donna Gainer.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to MSA Coalition or Goodman United Methodist Church.
Southern Funeral Home (Friday Visitation)
100 Pine St
Lexington, MS 39095
Goodman United Methodist Church (Memorial Service)
9750 Main St
Goodman, MS 39079
MSA Coalition (Donations)
8311 Brier Creek Parkway Suite 105-434
Raleigh, NC 27617
http://www.firstgiving.com/fundraiser/RebeccaDonaldTiptonParker/laurenwrathersfundraisingpage
Goodman United Methodist Church (Donations)
P.O. Box 246
Goodman, MS 39079
Becky Passed Peacefully Early This Morning
11-20-13
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Update Nov 19
Update Nov 19
From David 11-19-13
You may already know all of this, but I wanted to mention it in case the card on the flowers got lost.
Kelly just got here and said Lyn Donald came by, too.
Becky rested well last night & is awake now. Kelly is talking...big surprise.
Monday, November 18, 2013
What can I do to help?
From reading about others who have gone through similar situations I think the best way people can help is to come up with concrete suggestion: "Could I go grocery shopping for you?" is really helpful. That way, we would have less thinking to do.
Here are some ideas I found that others found helpful:
- Send Pictures or put together a memory book
- Shop for groceries or run errands
- Drop off a casserole or other type of food (one that can be frozen, or warmed up later in case they are not hungry at that time)
- Take care of housework, such as cleaning or laundry
- Drive him or her wherever he or she needs to go
- Look after his or her pets
- Accompany them on a walk
- Take them to lunch or a movie
- Share an enjoyable activity (game, puzzle, art project)
From Mama (Virginia) as told to Kelly 11-18-13
From Kelly 11-18-13 9:30
Sunday, November 17, 2013
From Kelly 11-17-13
Saturday, November 16, 2013
From Kelly 11-16-13
Friday, November 15, 2013
From Kelly 11-15-13
Hospice Pamphlets
Final Days/When Death Is Near
Brief Moment of Clarity / Lucidity
This was so amazing that I had to document it asap so I don't forget any details:
Mom was moving around a lot in her sleep and even sitting up somewhat violently a couple times. Normally I don't interject when this happens because she's usually acting out her dreams and even if I try to wake her it's almost impossible because she's in such a deep sleep. This time, she was moving around extremely quickly and making pained facial expressions, so I tried to calm her down by massaging her head a little bit. After a second or two, she opened her eyes widely and said to me, clear as a bell: "Did the phone just ring?" I was pretty thrown by how clearly I could understand her but I decided to take advantage of the situation...
First, I explained to her that she had been dreaming and that the phone hadn't rung. Then, I asked her if she was in pain and she said (verbally) no. I asked if she loved me and she said "I love you. Do you love me?" I said "Of course," and then she asked (verbally) where Lauren was. I said that she was at her apartment, sleeping, and that she would be here in the morning. I decided to call Lauren so that she could talk to Mom in this brief window. When I gave the phone to Mom, the first thing she asked was "Did I wake you up?" Typical Mom... always thinking of others before herself. Then she and Lauren talked for a second, with the clearest things she said being, "I love you, Lauren" and "I'm proud of you." After they hung up, I said, "It means a lot to me to know that you love us and that you're proud of us" and she replied: "I'll always love you." Then, the last thing I could hear her say clearly was "I wish Lauren was here" -- I told her that I could call Lauren back and ask her to come then, or otherwise she'd see her in the morning, and she indicated (non-verbally) that she was ok with waiting until the morning.
Tomorrow I think the plan is for Uncle David to get here around 7:30am at which point I'll go back to Lauren's apartment. I'm not sure who's relieving Uncle David after his visit, but as for me, I'm planning on getting some rest and coming back no earlier than 3pm tomorrow.
Thursday, November 14, 2013
From Kelly 11-14-13
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
From Kelly 11-13-13 Addendum
From Kelly 11-13-13
Tuesday, November 12, 2013
From Kelly 11-12-13
Monday, November 11, 2013
Secret handshake
After sleeping for several hours straight, Mom woke up to visit with me, Lauren, and Granny for a bit. She looks very happy and peaceful and is remarkably alert. She even did our "secret handshake" with me and Lauren :-)
She remembers everyone who has visited. Sometimes I think she is able to hear and know that people are here even if she appears to be sleeping.
She seems to be developing a rash and is itching a lot. We are about to meet her doctor, Dr. Raju, and we will ask her about it. The only new medicine she has been given is morphine but supposedly she has had morphine before without issue, so who knows...
Overall I think that Hospice Ministries has been a great choice and they are doing everything they can to peacefully guide Mom (and us) through this difficult time.
From Kelly 11/10/13
Mike was very anxious about going, but once we got there, he felt so much better. The Hospice personnel are so kind & attentive. Becky was awake nearly the whole 3 hours we were there, and she was quite responsive. The atmosphere at Hospice Ministries is peaceful & quiet.
Kyle brought his parents, Dan & Jeannie by to visit again before they left to go home. Dan was so sweet to Becky; kissing her cheek & hugging her.
David & Nora came in around 10:00. Becky was glad to see them.
Sunday, November 10, 2013
Nov 10th Recap
Becky slept for most of the day which means to me that she was comfortable. I did notice that her feet, which are normally clenched like fist, were almost relaxed looking for at least part of the day. I think that the small dose of morphine they give her is really helping her body relax a bit. Becky did refuse her breathing treatments a few times but the nurses said if she didn't want it she doesn't have to have it. She seems to be breathing much easier since arriving at HM.
Everyone continues to be very caring and very patient and we have all been very happy with Becky's care. Eric is spending the night with Becky tonight and we plan to meet with the Dr in the morning around 9am, although I'm not sure if this is a set appointment or just when the dr will be in on Monday.
I will update everyone after we talk to the Hospice Dr.
7am Nov 10 - From Lauren
Saturday, November 9, 2013
6:26pm Nov 9th
New Lip Balm
Friday, November 8, 2013
Hospice Ministries - Room 403
Becky is on the way to HM
Thursday, November 7, 2013
Hospice Evaluation Update
Hospice Ministries (visitor entrance in back near chapel)
450 Towne Center Boulevard
Ridgeland, MS 39157
1-800-273-7724 | 601-898-1053
Before Becky goes to hospice tomorrow Kelly will bring her to Granny/Charlie's around 9-930 am for an early lunch around 11am then back to the nursing home for them to pick her up.
Update from Eric - Hospice Ministries Evaluation
Hospice Evaluation
Wednesday, November 6, 2013
Update From Donna at Hospice Minitries
Donna